Below is a list of fathers who are grieving as the result of the death of their child. The families you find here have consented to being contacted to receive and provide support in this way. Please feel free to contact as many as you would like. Every effort is made to make sure the e-mail address for each family is current. But, as it often happens, sometimes addresses change for different reasons and without notice.
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lost his infant son, Micah, on 7/1/2007 due to an unknown cause. "My girlfriend and I have lost our first child together on July 1st, 2007. We wanted him in our lives so much, and at 7 days past her due date our son died. He grew into a healthy young boy within the nine month period. We haven't received any answers why this happened. I have spoken with a mother who lost her infant son and she is the only one who could relate to the pain I am feeling. I find no comfort in family or friends who try their hardest to make me feel better. I am reaching out to anyone who wants to talk to me about dealing with this horrible pain I feel everyday and night."
lost his 3 1/2yr old daughter, Jacqueline, on 7/2/2004 as the result of an auto accident. "My only 3 1/2 year old daughter was killed in a head-on collision three months ago. I would love to hear from people that have some thoughts and words of wisdom."
lost his 9 month old daughter, Shayla, on 10/13/2005 as the result of an auto accident. "I lost my daughter in a horrible car accident. I have tried a lot of things to get myself back and end this journey of depression and guilt. The only thing I haven't tried is reaching out to other people who have went through this. I miss her with all my heart. The pain seems to get worse as time goes by and I need some help to get better. I really don't know what to say or who to talk to."
Child through Adult (4yrs and up)
lost his 16yr old son, Sean, on 6/30/2008 as the result of a congenital heart defect. "Sean died suddenly in front of his mum, me and his little brother. Since Sean died, we asked the doctor to see his records because we didn't understand the cause of death. When we looked at them, it turns out that Sean's last appointment was when he was 5. There was to be a follow-up appointment a year later that never came. So we have come to the conclusion that if Sean had been treated, he would still be with us at this present time."
lost his 6yr old son, Amit, on 4/17/2008 as the result of an accidental drowning in a water park. "I am from Mumbai in India and I am the unfortunate father of Master Amit who died due to a drowning in a water park on 17/4/2008. We are deeply perturbed and disturbed due to this incidence and I am not able to concentrate on my job and routine life. I am requesting to all to pray for my child and help me to come out of this circumstance."
lost his 14yr old daughter, Chantel, on 12/31/2000 as the result of a gun shot wound. "I would like to meet parents in the same situation. We can help you and you can help us."
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lost his 11yr old daughter, Kelly, on 7/17/2001 as the result of being struck by a car while riding her bicycle. "This is the worst devastation anyone could possibly imagine. I never in a million years thought I would lose a child. Kelly was an angel and the apple of my eye. She left behind a 15yr old brother as well and we are all grieving hard but are able to cope by growing closer to God each day. He is taking care of us all and we will see Kelly again one day. the lady who hit her is having a really hard time, too. Oh, I love her so dearly and miss her SO much...she was a very spiritual, energetic young girl."
lost his 14yr old son, Lee, on 10/26/2000 as the result of an ATV accident.
lost his 21yr old son, Spencer, on 1/17/2004 as the result of a possible drug overdose and asthma. "My son had been using several drugs for some time. The night before and the whole week prior he had used several types of drugs. He has asthma which he was neglecting. Despite his drug use he was well liked and kind hearted. He was living at home and attending college successfully at the time."
lost his 25yr old son, Kevin, on 6/2/2001 as the result of a drug overdose. "Kevin was in recovery, but one slip took his life. He was a high school teacher and football coach. We miss him so very much."
lost his 20yr old son, Phillip, on 10/9/2004 as the result of a drug overdose. "I am a Christian and I believe that Jesus Christ is the only way to the Father. I believe the Bible is the word of God and I believe I will be with my son again."
lost his 23yr old son, Joshua, on 10/6/2003 as the result of a valium and cocaine mixture. "We have set up a web site in our son's honor with some poetry he wrote about drugs. www.joshjoseph.com
"Dominic is currently in the hospital in a non-responsive state which is indicative of severe brain trauma and is not expected to live. He overdosed with heroin four weeks ago and we had to have the police take his apartment door down to get to him. We are in the position of deciding to withhold food and water as he moves to long term care because he is in a vegetative state. He was a successful waiter at an Olive Garden restaurant and was popular, well-loved and extremely intelligent. I don't know how you deal with the waste of such a promising life because of his own self-destruction and refusal to face reality. His mother and I did everything possible to intervene except to shackle him to the support poles in the basement."
lost his 18yr old son, Matt, on 6/3/2007 as the result of an overdose of Roxy--a mixture of Rohypnol and Oxycotin. "Matt died of an accidental drug overdose on June 3, 2007. My wife, my two daughters, and I have been seared to our souls by my son's death. We only know that somehow we have to work together as a family to come through this, the most terrible time of our lives."
lost his 18yr old son, Matthew, on 12/7/2005 as the result of a lung infection caused by the chemo treatments for Non Hodgkins lymphoma. "We lost our beautiful, wonderful, talented son Matthew at age 18 as a result of complications for the treatment of Non Hodgkin's lymphoma. Matthew was diagnosed July 8th 2005 and spent the next 5 months going through chemo treatments and surgery to remove his spleen, VOD, congestive heart failure, liver disease and finally succumbed to a lung infection. He fought a brave battle and very rarely complained. His biggest concern was he wanted to LIVE! My son is more of a man than I or anyone else I know could be. I am very proud that he was my son. I would love to hear from others who have been in this situation and how they have dealt with the overwhelming grief, sadness and longing to see their child. This is more than we can bear! We love him dearly and always will. He was our sunshine and my honey boy."
lost his 13yr old son, Nate, on 8/13/2006 as the result of AVM. "Anybody else in the military?"
"I have had gone through the death of two of my children - Joey, at the age of five (1982-1988) and Danny, at the age of 4 (1987-1992). Both of them had inherited severe combined primary immune deficiency. They both needed bone marrow transplants. Joey was too sick to ever get one; however, Danny did receive his - however, other complications settled in and he died less than three months later. The day after Joey's funeral in July of 1988 - we were told on Danny's first birthday - that my second son had the same problem. Although it has been a number of years since their deaths - I remember the pain, the deep grief, the loneliness that I felt. It felt like my heart was ripped out of my rib cage and stomped on in a million pieces. The hardest part of it all was the feeling at times when I felt totally alone in my grief with hardly anyone to talk to about them. What helped me were those friends who did stepped forward and allowed me to share my stories, my memories, and my broken dreams about my sons. Yes, as you work your way through your grief - eventually, the pain will subside by degrees- but one truly never gets over it. Whatever way, I can be of help to you - I would love to lend a listening ear/heart to you. Losing a child is terrible beyond belief - but how much more when one feels that they are going through it alone. Yes, I know that I will see my dear children again in Heaven - but until then - we will grieve."
lost his 13yr old son, Zachary, on 1/3/2006 as the result of an auto accident where a truck ran into their broken down minibus. "I am very interested in talking to fathers who has lost teen sons. I have spoken to a few people since my son's death but only one was a father. I really want to just talk to anyone."
lost his 20yr old daughter, Muge, on 4/7/2006 as the result of an auto accident. "My dear daughter, Muge, had a traffic accident on 29.03.2006 while she was driving on motorway. she was in the hospital under intensive care for 9 days but she could not make it and died 7.4.2006. Ever since then, I and my wife cannot heal our grief although we have a son of 11 years of age."
lost his 24yr old son, Michael, on 5/26/1989 as the result of suicide by gunshot. "It has been a loss that I can't get past. I blame myself for being a bad father and was there for him. I should have helped him more to get over his depression and given him more support. I don't have any excuse. Now I have cancer and a spinal cord tumor and hope some day soon to be with him again. He was 24 and had his whole life to live. I feel guilty to wake up every day and he is not able to enjoy his life now."
lost his 23yr old son, Jonathan, on 4/7/2004 as the result of suicide. "Jonathan was my oldest child. We had our rough times as he grew up. He was one who pull our family together doing things as a family. For someone who always like to keep hi family arm length away. He would call at lease 3 times a week check on what going on. Plus coming over couple times a week too. Sure miss him a lot and hearing his voice. Saying what's going on or what's up. But last 5 months we came very close again. So grateful for that."
lost his 30yr old son, Danny, on 5/22/2004 as the result of a self-inflicted gunshot to the head. "Just too many questions and no answers. I wasn't through being his dad, yet."
lost his 11yr old daughter, Danielle, on 2/20/2006 as the result of a crash caused by a drunk driver. "My 11yr old daughter was taken from our family. She was a true light in our lives and loved by everyone she knew. She was very involved in her community, in sports and in church. I miss her very much."
lost his 19yr old son, Daniel, on 10/20/2006 as the result of a heroin overdose. "It has been 10 1/2 months and this is getting harder--not easier. My wife has seen a counselor but I can't get myself to go to one. So she showed me this site and thought a pen pal would help. Confused and in a fog....! ...David"
lost his 16yr old son, Anthony, on 8/15/2007 as the result of an ATV accident. "I'm just looking for someone to chat with. It's been only 2 months since my son died but it still feels like yesterday and at times it feels like an eternity since I last saw him. Some days I think I'm okay and then it hits me like a freight train and I'm back to reality."
lost his 13yr old daughter, Emily, on 12/30/2007 and the result of leukemia (A.L.L.). "Our 13yr old Down syndrome daughter brought us such joy. We miss her. I'd like to have someone to email who can maybe understand. So few people can."
lost his 24yr old son, Ryan, on 5/12/2007 as the result of a motorcycle accident. "Ryan was my only son. He always made his family so proud of him. He has five sisters. As his father, I am still groping with the fact that he is not going to return. I would love to correspond with someone who is perhaps a little further along than myself. Thank you."
lost his 16yr old son, Joshua, on 7/24/2004 as the result of a drunk driver crash caused by a multi-repeat offender. "My wife said maybe something like this might help me by helping others. Maybe it's time."